Ignore the Toxicity and Become the Positive Person You’ve Always Wanted to Be
Life is tough — there’s no getting around that. But that doesn’t mean you have to succumb to the negativity the world will inevitably throw at you! Get yourself out of that rut and learn to become a more positive person and manifester a better life with these easy tips.
Get Up and Do Something
Let’s just get the annoying one out of the way first … which is being healthy. We all know it, but it’s just hard for a lot of us to motivate ourselves to exercise and be active.
BUT … there’s a huge misconception with what it means to be ‘active’. You don’t need to force yourself to go to the gym multiple times a week, wake up at 4AM for a jog or any of that difficult stuff.
Being active can mean doing something as simple as going for a walk around the block, getting on your feet and doing household chores or even just walking around at the mall. Make it fun for yourself and you won’t even realize you’re doing it!
My only advice is to try to do something outdoors, such as taking a walk through the park for half an hour or washing your car. You don’t realize how much a little sunshine can do for you.
It’s also a known fact that sunlight can help increase your serotonin levels, which is directly associated with being a mood-booster. It’s just science, people … absorb that vitamin D!
Visualize and Manifest
I know it sounds new-agey, but just hear me out. Visualizing what you want out of life, everyday, can make a huge difference the longer you do it.
Here’s the thing — there’s a difference between worrying about the future and looking forward to the future. We can’t predict what will happen in life, but we owe it to ourselves to hope for the best.
Visualize your goals, your ideal life that’s realistic in scope, and convince yourself that you already have it. Think of it not as a matter of if, but when. This is the essential idea behind manifesting your ideal life.
I don’t know how to explain it, and I’m sure others who practice manifestation can agree, but life has a way of aligning, or course-correcting in order to get you where you want to be, so long as you give it a little push.
Some people create a vision board to help keep them visualizing short and longterm goals. Others wake up every morning and make it a point to acknowledge what they want to accomplish that day, week or year.
There’s a line in Paulo Coelho’s iconic novel, The Alchemist, that reads, “When you really want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
Don’t think of it as ‘magic’, but more of a means to keep you focused. But if we’re being honest, sometimes it feels like magic!
Yeah, one can always wonder if the good things you want in life were bound to happen regardless of manifesting them or not, but that’s the beauty of it.We’ll never know the answer as to what will happen … but at the very least, we can try tipping the odds.
Find a Hobby You Really Enjoy
Finding a hobby can be really simple. Although great examples, it doesn’t have to be some elaborate skill like learning to play the piano or painting.
A hobby that can keep you busy and productive can be as simple as taking care of some plants. Just the responsibility of having something to care for can do wonders for your mental health.
I started this website as a hobby a few years back just to keep myself occupied and I never thought I’d still be doing it. Just make sure your hobby never becomes a chore or something that causes you stress.
Another thing I recently took up is editing little video journals of my daily activities and posting them to TikTok. They’re not masterpieces or anything, but I genuinely enjoy making them and they really get my creative juices flowing!
Let Go of What You Can’t Change
This is a tough one for most people, and it was my biggest obstacle when it came to getting my mental health in check.
As I mentioned at the very beginning, life is tough. Oftentimes it’s unfair and just plain cruel.
The best thing we can do for ourselves is roll with the punches. Accept that most things won’t go your way, but don’t let that stop you. Change course, adjust your sails and keep on moving.
The only thing we really have control over in life is our own actions. Don’t dwell on what others are doing, or lose sleep over what people think of you.
Did a person cut you off while you were on your way to work? Who cares!? Don’t sit there and curse up a storm, watching them weave in an out of traffic ahead of you — just move on.
When you find yourself getting worked up over very little things, it’s important you catch yourself immediately and tell yourself, ‘It’s not a big deal if I don’t make it one’.
Trust me — you’ll spare yourself a lot of headaches.
Oh, and if you haven’t seen the movie Gravity with Sandra Bullock, give it a watch. It’s all about letting go and finding the strength to move on.
Do NOT Compare Your Life to Others
This goes hand-in-hand with my previous tip, and it’s likely the most important on this list.
DO NOT compare yourself to other people. Stop comparing where you are in your life with where your friends, family or strangers are at. Everyone lives a different life with different circumstances.
Let’s face it — some people just have an easier life (on the surface), and that’s okay! Be happy for them, but just don’t get yourself down on your own situation.
Many of us have had plenty of obstacles to get past in the course of our lives, and it’s only natural to wish you could just swap lives with someone, but it’s important to be mindful of the good things you have going on.
For example, when I was having a rough go at things, I had to stop and remind myself I had a lot to be thankful for. I had a roof over my head, a car, a job that pays me money whether I liked it or not, and a family that would be there to catch me if I ever lost it all. Not everyone has that stuff — maybe not even the people you think have an easy life.
The grass is always greener on the other side, but that really just depends on the angle you’re looking at it from.
That brings me to my next tip …
Be mindful of what you have, and wake up every day thankful for, uh, waking up, and the little things in life.
I like to begin and end my days with being grateful that I have my bills paid, a car with a full tank of gas, food in my fridge (even if it’s just cheese and Dr Pepper), and people I can share it all with.
There was a time when I would stay up at night wondering if I’d ever be able to afford to live on my own, have a career or be ‘successful’, so it’s important to me that I acknowledge how grateful I really am to be where I’m at, because I know how it feels to be so uncertain.
Another thing I like to do, and this ties in with manifestation, is be thankful for what’s to come. I go to bed every night excited for where life is going to take me, because it’s not a matter of if or how I’m going to get there, but when — and it’s soon.
Stop Taking Everything So Personally
Look, life might suck right now but don’t think the game is rigged against you.
If something didn’t go your way, maybe it was for the best. Perhaps some things just aren’t meant to be, BUT maybe doors will open in unexpected places that will help you go where you need to be.
Stop thinking that just because anyone has any sort of criticism toward you, they’re ‘calling you out’. Not everyone has malicious intentions! Maybe some people want to help you better yourself, and if they say something that makes you feel insecure, think about why.
We can be our own biggest enemies. We see what we want to see and hear things the way we want to hear them. Sometimes we need someone to give us a good shake, if only to open our eyes.
Identify Your Own Negative Traits and Fix Them
Lastly, please look inward. We understand ourselves better than anyone, and it’s up to us to come to certain realizations about ourselves, even if we don’t want to.
Are you a standoffish person who’s always getting ‘called out’ for things you don’t realize you’re doing? Find the root of that, and at the very least, apologize.
There’s a fine line between having criticism about someone, and judging them. We all have criticisms about people we know, but that doesn’t mean we’re judging them. We criticize the people we love because we believe they can do better.
Take steps to at least try to better yourself. Stop complaining and stop blaming everyone but yourself for your shortcomings.
None of us are perfect, and we know that … but that doesn’t mean we can’t try to be better people, little by little.
Whittle away at your own negativity and you’ll soon realize positivity has a way of transforming your life. It did for me, and I know it can for you.