Don’t Let V-Day Get You Down
A wise man once said, “There are only three things certain in this world: Death, Taxes and Valentine’s Day.” That wise man is me. And when Valentine’s Day rolls around and you’re single, you’re most likely hoping for the first certainty.
The only reason you’d be reading this is if you’re single during the season, and if you’re not, at least you’ll be enlightened. Couples always say the same thing in situations like this.
“It can’t be that bad!” or “At least you save money!”
Although true, it’s certainly not the point of why you feel bummed for being on your own on February 14th. The real reason is that it just plain sucks seeing all your friends planning and getting excited for a day where all they are to do is love and spoil their significant other. This feeling is unisex.
It’s not that you feel jealous of your friends, not at all. There’s something about Valentine’s Day, beside the fact that it’s just a cash holiday for candy and car makers, that makes you take a long hard look at your life.
Are you where you want to be? You’re single, yeah, but why? Is it because you’re not putting yourself out there for the opposite sex (or same!), to notice you? Maybe you’re just not ready for a relationship. Or maybe people just don’t like you. It’s a harsh truth that we sometimes need to hear in order for us to wake up and take not of the fact that we can sometimes be unattractive.
Speaking of being unattractive, image has very little to do with attraction! If you’re not a 10 in the looks department, you can supplement that for a great personality! I know it sounds cliche but it really is true. People crave attention and if you show enough interest and genuine kindness, you’ll automatically become attractive! It’s just that simple!
All that aside, I wanted to give some tips on going about Valentine’s Day by yourself without feeling too bummed.
Stay at home and watch Netflix
This one is simple because it comes naturally to us anyway. (Hey, we’re single!) Put on a feel-good flick or a comedy and just binge watch. Get some junk food and spend the remaining few hours after work or school just watching dumb stuff.
Stay Away From Date Spots
Trust me. You’ll immediately feel like your single-ness is amplified just by being present in a restaurant or mall. Hit up your local dive bar because chances are that it’ll be filled with people who have the same thing on their mind. Hell, you might even meet someone!
Take Out Your Mom
If your parents aren’t the date-going type, treat your mom or dad to a nice dinner or a movie. They like to have a good time too! Also, it’ll make you feel really good about yourself because, more often than not, we are so busy growing up that we forget our parents are growing old.
Ask Your Crush to be Your Valentine!
Only if they’re single! If you’ve had your eye on a special someone at work or school and they’re single also, they are probably feeling crappy about their relationship status too in the weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day. As rude as it may sound, they probably have their guard down also, hoping that they’ll be asked by someone so they won’t be alone on V-Day. If that’s the case, they may even learn that you are a very pleasant person after all.
Lastly, Think About All The Relationship Problems You Hear Your Friends Complain About
This one is easy if you have friends who are always having issues in their relationship. In an odd way, thinking about their issues will make you feel better about being single, and it may even open your eyes to the fact that most relationships are hanging by a thread anyway! Not everyone’s relationships are as perfect as the ones you see on TV, and Valentine’s Day doesn’t magically make it so. In fact, Valentine’s Day has become more of an Instagram holiday, meaning that couples use it as an excuse to flex on social media. Don’t hate, just let them have this day.
So there. If you’re alone on Valentine’s Day, don’t worry. Most of us are! It’s also not as important as it may seem at the time. I used to dread February 14th but now I don’t pay it any attention unless I have a Valentine. You’re awesome, and if you don’t think so, well, become awesome! It’s easy!
